How can I know God’s will—whether my choice is his—in any particular situation? Libraries are full of books with recommendations and advice. Here’s one suggestion:
Imagine sailing into port at midnight, being guided by three lights—the three L’s. If I can I maneuver my craft so that all three are in a straight line, one behind another appearing as one, then I’m on target. If I can keep them in that line, I’ll make port—God’s will for me.
The lights? #1 is “Is it a Loving thing to do?” That includes to me and others, and can be backed up by references in Proverbs and/or the New Testament. #2 is “Is it Logical? [same as the “Reason” leg of our Episcopal tripod. We’re supposed to use our God-given brains!]. And finally, #3: “Have I Linked?” [consulted with Christian friends; otherwise I risk having a conversation with myself, an easy recipe for delusion].
If it passes all three of these tests, I’m reasonably sure that my decision lines up with God’s will.